Gay men in Buenos Aires

[Kai Kaelien]

I can't figure them out... they adore you, but they don't want to see you, often in the same moment. I've been reading about how straight Argentine men deal with women, and there are some parallels, but not many. How are gay expats who are on the BsAs gay scene finding Argentine men? I find them utterly confusing.

 

[cruizes]

For some reason they think that they are better than you BUT that is generally the arrogant attitude from most of the people here.

 

[citygirl]

While not a gay man, spent a lot of time on the scene with some of my best friends and in general, I feel sorry for anyone trying to date here. Straight men are bad enough, gay men take the hysterico and drama to a whole new level

Your best bet is to try and meet a partner through a mutual friend - that will hopefully alleviate a lot of the BS. As far as meeting someone in a club - ugh. Love you/Hate you is the name of the game. And gossip - lots and lots and lots of gossip.

 

[Kai Kaelien]

I mean, you know, I've found a couple of sweet guys who seem like they're really into you... and then poof, they can't even be bothered to answer texts. It's a bit different than in the US because, generally speaking, a gay guy in the states won't ever show you THAT much attention if he just met you. Here the guys act like they want to marry you one day and then can't be bothered with you the next.

 

[pauper]

I mean, you know, I've found a couple of sweet guys who seem like they're really into you... and then poof,

I know you're upset but there's no need to use derogatory language.

 

[Napoleon]

Our latest gay couple in our extended expat & Argentine group was/is a guy from Germany and a guy from Venezuela. Their young-ish though, early 20s I think and the German guy isn't out with his parents. The Venezuelan is out with everybody, I think. They're both tall and everyone in our group o' straighties likes them both, so I don't think that there's any drama with them. Plus, they knew that they had a limited time frame anyway, so drama would have been a waste of a precious resource (time).

Before this, we also had a tall gay couple (what is it with our extended group attracting tall gays?) that featured an American and an Argentine. But the Argentine wasn't from Buenos Aires, but rather down south. So maybe the fact that he was from la provincia (hence his nickname "El Corderito"), meant that they didn't have that much drama either. Also, when it's just one or two gay couples with a bunch of straights, I don't think that there's any of the jealousy factors that you might normally have, because no one is trying to steal their man and all of the girls are smothering both of them with love and attention.

So maybe try to find someone from outside of the city and then hang out with a bunch o' straights when you do.

Does that help?

 

[sesamosinsal]

Experiences vary. I married an Argentine, but he is by far the cream of the crop.

I've dated a few other Argentine guys before the marriage, though. Some were way too into me, which ultimately turned me off. Others played really hard-to-get, exhibiting the same behavior the OP mentions about being totally into me one second and totally disinterested the next.

One thing that is drastically different about homo-dating versus hetero-dating is that you really don't need to have a friend in common in order to talk to a guy. In other words, it's perfectly acceptable to go up to a guy in a gay bar and say whatever comes to mind. From what I've been told by hetero guys here, this is a no-no with women -- unless of course you have a friend in common who has been the woman's friend since elementary school.

All in all, I think that we gay guys have it a lot easier than our hetero counterparts.

 

[Kai Kaelien]

Except that the guys are way more dramatic than straight guys, who from what I've read can be pretty damn dramatic, haha...

I actually just talked to a young gay argentine, and he said that the gays here are often dramatic for absolutely no reason whatsoever -- and he made sure to include himself in that analysis. I mean, gays in the US are dramatic too, but they at least tend to have a reason for it (regardless how stupid a reason it is). It seems to me that guys here will like you one day, and then literally decide on a whim that they don't like you the next day. It's crazy.

If only they weren't so hot, with the perfect body obsession, the green eyes, and the designer clothes... ugh.

 

[sesamosinsal]

Except that the guys are way more dramatic than straight guys, who from what I've read can be pretty damn dramatic, haha...

I actually just talked to a young gay argentine, and he said that the gays here are often dramatic for absolutely no reason whatsoever -- and he made sure to include himself in that analysis. I mean, gays in the US are dramatic too, but they at least tend to have a reason for it (regardless how stupid a reason it is). It seems to me that guys here will like you one day, and then literally decide on a whim that they don't like you the next day. It's crazy.

If only they weren't so hot, with the perfect body obsession, the green eyes, and the designer clothes... ugh.

You should go to Sao Paulo for a weekend. Generally speaking, the Brazilians put the Argentines to shame.