ExMontreal
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Hello,
I think I have a big problem, and I need to find someone on my same situation. I apologize the post is too long.
I was born in Argentina, but grew up abroad. I came back to Arg on my teens but never felt this was my home. I do not feel it now. I always felt a foreign in my own birth city.
At adulthood I moved to Canada and fast met an Argentinian recently arrived too. We married and lived in Montreal for 10 years, where we also have a child. We all have the Canadian Citizenship (this is very important in the last paragraph).
I absolutely love Montreal life style, even the extreme cold winter. That is my home. It is the place I feel alive, I feel I fit in, I feel their values and culture perfectly match with who I am.
However, my husband did not feel the same at all and we finally came back 2 years ago with our young child. One of the major reasons for coming back was the fact that he could never work in his profession in Canada and he expected to do so here. Other major problems were his deep depression and a slowly growing violent way to talk to me.
The problems never ended, he never worked in his field, actually he never worked at all, and his horrible manners to treat me worsen until I decided to leave our relationship earlier this year.
Now we are separate, in the way to divorce. And I can´t stop thinking on what I´ve left behind to help him get the life he wanted. Apparently I can not move back to Canada because I have a young child (Canadian) and my husband will never accept me to leave BA with his child.
The big question is: Is it possible to deny a Canadian Citizen to come back to Canada just because his ex-husband does not want to allow his Canadian child to leave Argentina?
I´ve asked a lawyer who said it will be a long legal battle to get a Judge to say “No. You can´t go” just because the judge will prioritize the last residence of the child (that happens to be BA) in order to avoid the child the stress of moving abroad [what!! What does the Judge know about the stress of moving abroad? Does he have experience? Did he considered the stress of living here?].
I just can not accept it. I can not accept a “no” as a response. You know why? Because I came here under a lie, under a promise that never happened. To save the life of a depressed husband that was turning to a nightmare. To rebuilt a relationship and hopefully end his violent behavior. I can not accept a “no” because I´m raising here, with no economical help at all, a Canadian child that deserves a better and safer life style in the country I´ve chosen for her long time ago. The country I adopted as the proudest Canadian ever. I can not accept a “no” as an answer.
Does someone know what can I do? Does someone know how can I get out of here legally? Does someone have a very good lawyer?
I think I have a big problem, and I need to find someone on my same situation. I apologize the post is too long.
I was born in Argentina, but grew up abroad. I came back to Arg on my teens but never felt this was my home. I do not feel it now. I always felt a foreign in my own birth city.
At adulthood I moved to Canada and fast met an Argentinian recently arrived too. We married and lived in Montreal for 10 years, where we also have a child. We all have the Canadian Citizenship (this is very important in the last paragraph).
I absolutely love Montreal life style, even the extreme cold winter. That is my home. It is the place I feel alive, I feel I fit in, I feel their values and culture perfectly match with who I am.
However, my husband did not feel the same at all and we finally came back 2 years ago with our young child. One of the major reasons for coming back was the fact that he could never work in his profession in Canada and he expected to do so here. Other major problems were his deep depression and a slowly growing violent way to talk to me.
The problems never ended, he never worked in his field, actually he never worked at all, and his horrible manners to treat me worsen until I decided to leave our relationship earlier this year.
Now we are separate, in the way to divorce. And I can´t stop thinking on what I´ve left behind to help him get the life he wanted. Apparently I can not move back to Canada because I have a young child (Canadian) and my husband will never accept me to leave BA with his child.
The big question is: Is it possible to deny a Canadian Citizen to come back to Canada just because his ex-husband does not want to allow his Canadian child to leave Argentina?
I´ve asked a lawyer who said it will be a long legal battle to get a Judge to say “No. You can´t go” just because the judge will prioritize the last residence of the child (that happens to be BA) in order to avoid the child the stress of moving abroad [what!! What does the Judge know about the stress of moving abroad? Does he have experience? Did he considered the stress of living here?].
I just can not accept it. I can not accept a “no” as a response. You know why? Because I came here under a lie, under a promise that never happened. To save the life of a depressed husband that was turning to a nightmare. To rebuilt a relationship and hopefully end his violent behavior. I can not accept a “no” because I´m raising here, with no economical help at all, a Canadian child that deserves a better and safer life style in the country I´ve chosen for her long time ago. The country I adopted as the proudest Canadian ever. I can not accept a “no” as an answer.
Does someone know what can I do? Does someone know how can I get out of here legally? Does someone have a very good lawyer?
