Moving to Argentina for love?

[Gringoboy]

I moved here for love.
It was a long and rocky road, but we overcame each and every difficulty that arose.
After six years we're still together and it just gets better. I'm British and my lady is Argentine, fyi.
You can do it if you BOTH have the will and the love.

 

[PhilipDT]

I moved here for love.
It was a long and rocky road, but we overcame each and every difficulty that arose.
After six years we're still together and it just gets better. I'm British and my lady is Argentine, fyi.
You can do it if you BOTH have the will and the love.

Just curious, what made you guys choose ARG over the UK or both?

 

[Napoleon]

Just curious, what made you guys choose ARG over the UK or both?

I'm betting that for him, it was carne and for her it was dulce de leche.

But I'm also interested to know.



Of course, it could have been the weather for both of them.

 

[va2ba]

Argentina is hard. That is a fact. I think most people deal with the issue you are talking about in terms of work and inflation.

Honestly, you have to ask yourself if you love him enough to move here and endure all of that hardship. I moved down here for love 2 years ago, now I am married and we have a daughter, but it is still hard to be here. But for me, it is worth it to go through some of this hardship in order to be with them.

Which is more important, being with him or having a good job back in Europe?

And yes, it IS normal to be scared. This is not a small thing.

 

[Smcali23]

I also moved for love. I never regretted it for a moment. However, I would say that you have to be certain, if not you could store up resentment as there are a lot of things you will miss from back home and this ain't no paradise.

 

[Gringoboy]

Just curious, what made you guys choose ARG over the UK or both?

A bit complicated and personal, but in essence:
She has a child at school here and the ex would ( and still does not) not give permission for the child to leave Arg.
Also, I've been used to many an upheaval in my life and could take a big change.
Asking her to leave her entire family would have been too much.
My parents died some years ago, sadly.
So here we are.
And I believe we have more opportunities in BA than back home, I really do.
The climate sucks though!

PS...good luck to the OP, whom I hope gets something positive from our replies.

 

[Ashley]

If you really love him, you should try again...but this time maybe have a plan.
The job/inflation situation over here is pretty terrible and setting up your own business is hard, but perhaps there is something you can do freelance in Europe from here (at least part-time to help with inflation). I am married to an argentine and work/my awful salary (!) is the most difficult aspect of being here for me. I certainly wouldn't leave without him though!
As for friends, you should come back over with a major resolution to be social...go to language exchanges, expat meet-ups. Making good friendships with Argentines can take a while but if you're going out and meeting people in the same position, I'm sure you'll feel a lot better.

 

[PhilipDT]

A bit complicated and personal, but in essence:
She has a child at school here and the ex would ( and still does not) not give permission for the child to leave Arg.
Also, I've been used to many an upheaval in my life and could take a big change.
Asking her to leave her entire family would have been too much.
My parents died some years ago, sadly.
So here we are.
And I believe we have more opportunities in BA than back home, I really do.
The climate sucks though!

PS...good luck to the OP, whom I hope gets something positive from our replies.

Sorry, I didn't me to pry. I know someone else in almost the same situation. Thanks for the reply.

 

[irina]

Noone can tell you what is the best decision for you. I moved here because I love Argentina and fell in love and am staying. There a lot of factors that make me happier here in BA than back home, but everyone's story is different. Since I didn't move here FOR my current fiancee I already had my own good job and a great support network of friends. I think that's crucial.

Now my life has gotten even easier (even though the little things still annoy me just like everything else), I have a great family of in-laws that loves me here, I have pets, I still have my great group of friends from before and my job. I just think you should be sure to build your own life outside of your boyfriend if you do decide to move here. Otherwise you could resent him, I'm glad to have my own social life.

 

[Crema Americana]

I'm moving to Argentina to be with my soon-to-be Argentine husband. I'm not sure what the future holds, I hope that one day we'll be able to move to the US or even to Europe, but for now Argentina is the best choice although I find the lack of certain conveniences to be quite frustrating at times. I've spent the last year there and several visits before (totaling at least 2 years) so I think I know what I'm getting into to. Yes, it's difficult.

It does help to know that there quite a few other expats in the same situation. Sometimes I think I'm crazy for moving to another country for love and leaving my family and country behind - especially to move to a country like Argentina. But the man makes it worth it and we'll make it either in Argentina or elsewhere. And if all goes according to plan (finances permitting), I should be able to travel a few weeks or months out of the year to visit family and recharge the batteries.

You just have to find what works for you. I don't think I could handle living in Argentina and STILL having a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I lived with him and he provided for the both of us, so that made things infinitely easier - I work, but mostly to help with the family business or to pass the time. If you're expected to be a main income earner and live far away, I'm not sure how that's going to work. Would you be comfortable living in the campo? Is he a farmer? Being a farmer's wife is not easy at all and there's not much in the line of work in the campo, so your quality of life may not be the same (and by that I mean material wants or needs.) You may find you enjoy the simple life of the country... but it's most likely very different from what you are used to. It's a big sacrifice.

I'd visit several times until I'm sure - and spend time with him! It's not fun being alone. Maybe living together before taking the plunge of marriage... then you can decide where to go from there. Would he be willing to move to the UK after getting all the paperwork in order? Or how about him visiting you in the UK for you to see if he really is the guy for you?