Serafina, you won a US green card in a lottery, did you not? I don't know what that says about US immigration policy, but I would have expected you to be more appreciative of it as a direct beneficiary. But this is neither here nor there, much like a lot of this thread.
I decided to resign it because I don't even dare to go on holiday in the US with my now husband because chances are he will be denied entry since he has a permanent resident wife and lacks of all the paperworks others have suggested to bring to demonstrate your non-immigrating intent.
To sponsor the spouse of a permanent resident there is a 1.5-2 year wait, which we would have to spend apart. On
immihelp there is plenty of people who did it, but if you ask me what would be better - 2 years of my life with my husband or to sponsor him... well, I still take the time together over the bureaucracy.
To me, demanding two partners to be separated for two years is simply ridiculous. Part of the reason we didn't move to the US is because we don't agree with the laws and rules over there (especially about health care, firearms, etc.) - this being one of them.
I am all about enforcement of the law, but when you read topics like "I am Ux citizen and I want to bring my girlfriend to meet my family back home, but I can't" it just highlight the unfairness of these laws. All it takes is an European passport and the same person, engaged to the same Ux citizen, can enter the Ux, no questions asked. How so? Does it really take a piece of paper to define a person?
I think this topic just proves that the 'lax' immigration attitude of certain countries has allowed people to live together and I fully understand the poster who reported choosing to live in Argentina because his partner was "not welcomed" in the UK. I would do the same.