Why Did You Break Up With Your Partner?

[Chet]

One important data point in relationships here is the language barrier. My wife and I didn't speak the same language (I don't mean figuratively) and we still don't. She expresses herself in Spanish which is not her first language and I in Spanish which is not my first language, either. Often, I feel there is a lot that I want to communicate but just can't.

Of all the things we deal with for me that is the most limiting followed by cultural differences of everything from politics, religion, medical decisions, and career paths.

This might actually be an advantage. Words in our native language tend to have a lot of baggage, small nuances of meaning that we learn as children. When we think we speak the same language it may not be as true as we think, a person that grew up in CA will have a lot of differences from someone that grew up in GA. At least if neither of you is speaking your native tongue you will need to agree on meanings that have a common understanding instead of just assuming you mean the same thing with the same word when you really don't.

 

[GS_Dirtboy]

This might actually be an advantage. Words in our native language tend to have a lot of baggage, small nuances of meaning that we learn as children. When we think we speak the same language it may not be as true as we think, a person that grew up in CA will have a lot of differences from someone that grew up in GA. At least if neither of you is speaking your native tongue you will need to agree on meanings that have a common understanding instead of just assuming you mean the same thing with the same word when you really don't.

For the first 6 months the language barrier was a non-issue.

 

[Girino]

One important data point in relationships here is the language barrier. My wife and I didn't speak the same language (I don't mean figuratively) and we still don't. She expresses herself in Spanish which is not her first language and I in Spanish which is not my first language, either. Often, I feel there is a lot that I want to communicate but just can't.

Of all the things we deal with for me that is the most limiting followed by cultural differences of everything from politics, religion, medical decisions, and career paths.

I can't really understand how can you communicate intimately, then!
The guessing part or the filling gaps of nuances you can't express one to the other can't be considered as "knowing him/her well".

 

[nikad]

I can't really understand how can you communicate intimately, then!
The guessing part or the filling gaps of nuances you can't express one to the other can't be considered as "knowing him/her well".

Body language?

 

[hannstew]

its the international language of love :wub:

 

[Chet]

I can't really understand how can you communicate intimately, then!
The guessing part or the filling gaps of nuances you can't express one to the other can't be considered as "knowing him/her well".

Learning/exploring is half, or more, of the fun!

 

[GS_Dirtboy]

I can't really understand how can you communicate intimately, then!
The guessing part or the filling gaps of nuances you can't express one to the other can't be considered as "knowing him/her well".

That has been my experience and continues to be. This coming from a guy who values the ability to be expressive, intimate, and knowing / being known.

 

[khairyexpat]

This says it all :

Body language?

Omg....iThere is no problem...no stress at all..ok, let's create some but i will not tell you, why i do that now.Why? No one knows...

"If you don't know or can't figure out why I'm mad then you are showing just how big a problem you have."

With time this will break even the Rock of Gibraltar.
(with deliberate selection of the perfect timing to jump on your foolish prey, even if it takes 19 years wait)

It will be too late, when one will know that it has been a while, .... (quite a distant while) since the final ultimatum has been executed, .. ... and one has already fallen and been savagely broken .. ,
It will be too late and no chance in hell to try to recover or lick ones wounds when time is up, ... waking up one morning, after the facts, with this on mind:

It´s been quite a distant while .. since one refused to see the signs .. inventing own explanations .. putting ones head in the sand!

 

[nlaruccia]

That says it all :





With time this will break even the Rock of Gibraltar.
(with deliberate selection of the perfect timing to jump on your foolish prey, even if it takes 19 years wait)

With time almost all relationships break up. I believe know that the only unconditional love that exists is the love for your children and your parents. You wouldn't abandon your daughter if she got pregnant and you wouldn't leave your father or mother if they got cancer, nor would you despise your son being unresponsive and ignoring you and you don't change and grow away from your children. As time passes and we mature, our needs change and the person that was right for us in us in our twenties may not be right for us in our forties. Enjoy the relationship in the moment and love the other generously. When it's time to go on a different path, wish the other happiness and find someone else who will fit into and adapt to the new changes in your life.