rmartinbuenosaires
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Auntie and whoever:Yes Auntie you are correct. I do not feel the need to advertise my sexuality because to me, it is just one part of me. As far as I am concerned, I do not care what people think and can draw their own conclusions. If someone doesn't like me, solely based on that fact, then they are really not worth knowing in my opinion.However, on this specific topic, I (unusually, believe it or not!) do not have a strong opinion either way. I see both sides to this issue. Personally, if I was Fer, I may have posted that on an exclusively gay board but maybe he wanted to get a larger audience. Who knows?As Auntie knows from my previous posts on the GATO string, I have a problem with the duplicity that men have here and their confusion and sexual identity. I have never lived anywhere (USA, Italy and Germany) where there is such a self-loathing of one's sexuality. I really say, "Who the Hell cares?" Live your life people. It only comes once. By acting in this manner of pretending, you are only fooling yourself because most people aren't stupid and have probably figured it out anyway.A little story that just recently happened to prove my point....Person "A" is an architect. Divorced, 57 year old man, father of three adult children.Person "B" is a heterosexual woman. She suspects Person "A" is bisexual at least but she is infatuated with Person "A", even though he has been spotted at gay cafes, he denies he is gay.Person "A" starts seeing Person "C" in private. Person "C" is completely gay in every regard and doesn't care who knows and no one cares. Person "A" said that it must be discrete and not to tell anyone. Person "C" told Person "D" in confidence. Person "D" told ME in confidence and I, in turn opened my big mouth and told Person "B", remember the woman? that I knew. I said not to say anything to her friend "A" and he would tell her in his own way. She said "C" was not good for "A" . I said it was none of her business and to stay out of it. Person "B" went directly to "A" and told him that she knew, that I told her, and that "C" was no good for him. Meanwhile, "B" has been talking about this issue with two others and decided to get involved with the scandal.In summation, EVERYONE is mad at everyone else because EVERYONE has a big mouth. This is true but ultimately, in my opinion, if Person "A" had just been honest in the first place, none of this would have ever happened. The whole thing is ridiculous but you are dealing with a completely different attitude and mentality here than in the U.S. or Europe. Let's go back to 1970 and its about on the same par. This is so exhausting....
