Argentine wifes inches from getting the boot

[jeff1234]

Long life without love is not worth living it.

Long Love without being alive to enjoy it is worse.

 

[EL_TIGRE_de_Tigre]

Long Love without being alive to enjoy it is worse.

Well ... there has to be middle ground somewhere along the line???

 

[Ceviche]

Pensador,

In his book An Introduction to the History of Medicine, author FH Garrison described the social impact of the pandemic, writing that family members and lifelong friends abandoned one another in an effort to save themselves from infection.

And public gatherings, including church attendance, declined dramatically.

The Black Death also ravaged European economies. So many people died that there simply weren’t enough willing, healthy workers. Commerce ground to a halt. Trade was nonexistent.

And by many measures, Europe didn’t fully recover its population or economic activity for hundreds of years.

 

[jeff1234]

Well ... there has to be middle ground somewhere along the line???

Way back before the lockdown we started hearing that the virus is often fatal to seniors like myself. A household member argued that it was ok for them to a meeting. The discussion went like this:
Me: On one hand you want to visit your friends. I'm certainly in favor of you enjoying yourself.
Me: On the other hand theres some chance that your visit might kill me.
Me: Hmmmmmm. Whats fair in this situation?
Me: I'm gonna go with this (almost exactly what Pensador said) If you go I'm renting an airbnb for myself until this is over.

 

[rickulivi]

Pensador. I suspect that your life might be more in danger should your wife read your post than if Coronavirus hit you. What’s that Shakespeare line about the wrath of a wronged woman?

 

[EL_TIGRE_de_Tigre]

Pensador. I suspect that your life might be more in danger should your wife read your post than if Coronavirus hit you. What’s that Shakespeare line about the wrath of a wronged woman?

You DO NOT WANT to wrong a woman! As fragile as they can be emotionally, they make up for it in their bite!

 

[Weyland]

Some people can deal with the social isolation aspect much better than others.

 

[Bajo_cero2]

She is taking on the typical head in the sand position. I have done everything to protect and keep things locked down here. We are friends with a block away neighbor who has a teenager who is still just living like nothing is going on, friends in and out etc and I know in that house they are zero defensive measures. The family is well known here lots of local friends people in and out all the time as well. For me it is a high risk environment and I have even tried to explain things to them. Typical no pasa nada response, I hope they are right. These are good friends always wonderful people but at this time just not a place to hang out.

Yesterday wife says, I am going for a walk and I asked are going to see your friend. No she says no, as she knows I wont go in their house and have asked her not do so at this time. While she is out for her supposed walk. I finished disinfecting some things and then went to take the trash from the day to dumpster. Just so happens our friends son is taking the trash out as well at the same time. He informs me my wife in the house with his mother having a tea. I try to call the friend as my wife left her cell here no answer and they know they are busted I am sure. Her friend knows I do not want her in the house as well. I suppose they think it is like some sneaky girls things and that paranoid crazy gringo is just over reacting to all this.

To think all I have to done and the measures taken could be so easily taken down with a touch of deceptive carelessness. Blew me away and wow was I hot I mean just off the charts frustrated. Thinking here I done have so much work and put so much effort into securing us and the house and everything only to be under minded by my partner.

Spent the morning on AIRBNB looking for a place to put her for several months. Lots of places near by and very affordable given the the current situation. That might be the best temporary solution. Yet even that would require the use resources that might be needed before all this is over. But then again what use would resources be if the it got me due to careless and clueless relationships.

Hard decisions to made this day for sure.

I had this reverse situation with my chinese wife who was following the Covid-19 since the 1st. Day.
I almost divorce until i bought food for 3 months, we locked ourselves home (5 weeks already), started to obsessively clean the floor with lavandina every day and got the nowadays fashion look:

 

[Bajo_cero2]

You're being very paranoid.

I guess I might as well tell my story.

Our office here in California was hit with Covid 19 the first week of March. Only 1 of 26 people had symptoms worrying enough visit the hospital, our receptionist, who is in her late 50s. It was her positive test that got our office closed and made us all aware that our sudden illness was this coronavirus, made us stay home for 2 weeks. The doctors said that given the nature of our frequent collaborations and contact, close work proximity, etc. and that so many of us exhibited symptoms, we should all assume that we were infected.

Symptoms: I had chest pain and a cough (that was somewhat painful, because of the underlying chest pain) for 3-4 days, and slightly impacted breathing for another 3-4 days. My assistant had a sore throat for a couple days. The major feeling that everyone had was unusual-to-severe fatigue. I mean, tough to stay awake during the day fatigue - about 14 people reported this, including me. This was the dominant feeling of Covid 19 for us.

Of the 26 people in our office who were exposed and presumed infected, we had 1 positive test, 4 with significant symptoms (including me), and 14 exhibiting symptoms of any kind. The others were asymptomatic.

This leads me to conclude 3 things:

1) This virus is already lot more widespread than people realize, the 1 positive test result represents 26 office exposures, plus a very large number of community exposures by all of us, before we realized we were infected. By one estimate, our 26 people probably infected another 91 people, so that 1 positive test here could mean 117 infected. Once we have a good antibodies test, we're going to realize that a lot of us really overreacted;
2) Measuring the positive test to death ratio does not get at all close to measuring the deadliness of this virus. Almost by definition, the only people to get tested will be those who are worst hit by the virus, so that we're getting a snapshot of the deadliness of the virus on those who most ill; and
3) It's just not that bad of a disease for the VAST majority of people who are exposed to it. In the case of our office's exposure, we had 0 deaths and a total of 2 hospital days (our receptionist), which were for observation.

Basically, my point here is that driving yourself crazy with paranoia and fear, and/or throwing your wife out or divorcing her or whatever because she just refuses to go crazy with you - from my perspective and anecdotal experience, these are very very irrational actions.

Take basic precautions to 'flatten the curve' and preserve medical resources for those who will be hard hit by this virus when it gets to them, but know that this isn't the black plague you're dealing with here.

How do you explain what is going on in NYC?

 

[jlsronce]

The real issue here is that she is so quick to lie to you in order to prioritize her social life over your potential health. Huge red flags. "No pasa nada?" Tell that to the people in Italy. Looks like you have some soul searching to do to see if this is somebody you want around for the rest of your life; somebody who has shown themselves to be an "egoista" when times get tough.