The belief (whether within a foreigner listening to Argentine friends, or within Argentinos themselves) that Argentines gladly give up material things for family, friends and asado is a bit silly. I can understand someone who doesn't have much experience here hearing that and believing it, at least for awhile, but true experience after a time immersed in the culture teaches one that this is hardly the case.
The truth is that most Argentinos ACCEPT things the way they are. They bitch and moan (except maybe those who are not upper or middle class true believers in Peronism, or poor and nearly completely ignorant of the wool being pulled over their eyes by those in power) but they accept.
They accept crappy schools. They accept crappy selections in the supermarkets. They accept crappy service from waiters and other service providers. They accept crappy quality of produced products. They accept high prices and inflation. Who can count the number of things that are accepted but not enjoyed?
All they have control over is their families and the weekend asados. Maybe they are truly happy with that, but it is because they choose not to demand more. Is that a virtue or a necessity?
The idea that the only thing that Americans (from the US) have, or are interested in, is materialistic greed is ludicrous and not a little bit of guarded jealousy.
I lived for nearly twenty years in two different middle class suburban neighborhoods in Houston, and while I was going to school, in the 5th ward slum. Yes, I liked material things - they were available and affordable (when I got older and made more money) and why shouldn't I? I busted my ass for it!
But guess what we did on the weekends? We had barbeques with the family and friends (yeah, even in the 5th ward slum). We'd be out in the yard cutting it to make our homes look nice on the weekends (ok, this not so much in the slum, to be fair), and someone would haul out a cooler filled with cold beer at the end of the day and the next thing you know, people were drifting over, someone was runnig up to the super market and buying some meat and chips and what-have-you and a block party sprang up out of nowhere!
Our entire neighborhood knew each other. We had about 300 homes! 2 swimming pools in the neighborhood. I lived in a barrio cerrado out near Pilar for two years and I couldn't get to know anyone out there because everyone was so stand-offish and kept to themselves, having friends from work or school that they'd knitted into a close-knit clique and was difficult to break into, at least as a foreigner.
Yes, many families are scattered in the States, but that has a lot to do with opportunities of a kind so different than what's available here. That doesn't mean that no one gives a crap about families - it just means they are not in constant contact. But even then, my folks lived in St Louis but still managed to come see us 3-4 times a year. My uncle still lived in Houston, my grandmother as well. We didn't not care about them, but we also didn't have to live with them because there was no other place to go. We had the ability to make something out of our own lives. It was something my father pressed into my brother and I - the point of raising kids should be to do the best to make sure they have more opportunities and have a better life than the parents who raised them.
I hear this crap all the time how the "important" things in life here are so much better than in the States. I don't buy it.
People are so tied into one another here because they have absolutely nothing else to hope for. Kids live with their parents sometimes for a decade or MORE because it is so difficult to get out of the house and live on your own. Buenos Aires, I've heard, has the highest number of psychiatrists per capita in the world. I don't know fi that's a fact, but I know a LOT of people who see them on a regular basis.
Please.
And don't even talk to me about how kids are raised by MANY here, at least in Cap Fed (and maybe just in the more affluent neighborhoods?). My wife and I have her younger sister living with us and going to school here. She is doing so only because the opportunities in Paraguay, where they are from, are even poorer than they are here.
But most of her Argentine friends spend all of their time partying and worrying about having fun and their parents not only ALLOW it but actually SUPPORT IT! Kids here as young as 13 start going out at night to juvenile clubs, mirroring the same thing many of the younger adults (and even older ones) do - partying all night long on the weekends and then dragging their asses to school on Monday, spending a day o two recovering, not worrying about studying and making good grades, but rather who is hosting the next party, or which club they are going to in the coming weekend.
I mean damn - high school graduates have all night parties in the middle of the week and many of the younger kids in the school go to their school's graduating class party, as well as many of the other schools as they can get invited to. Our school actually sent a notice home to the parents (I was pleasantly surprised at this) letting us know that throwing up and sleeping in school the day after a party was not to be tolerated and the offending kid would be sent home!
My sister-in-law, who is now 16, is going to a private Catholic school, one of the better ones in Capital Federal (middle-level, not one of these $700 USD a month schools for the rich).
In her class from last year, out of some 50 students, 11 DIDN'T PASS THE YEAR and will be repeating 3rd year!!!! And the chances they have to pass are astounding. If they don't pass a class, they have December before the holidays to take a test and pass (with 60%) to pass the class for that year. If they don't pass, they have another opportunity in March or end of February to pass agian. They only repeat the year if they don't pass 3 or more of their classes for the year! My sister-in-law has a couple of friends who are still carrying failed classes with them (one reportedly as many as 11?!) from previous years where they fell under the limit of three failures to repeat but have not yet had to make up the classes.
One of her friends is 18. She has repeated 3rd year twice previously, and this year failed again. Her parents don't make sure she studies - they just keep on letting things go until it reaches a critical point and now they are pulling her from school as a waste of money.
I could go on and on about things like this but I'm getting tired of writing
The fact is, tolerating a low-level of existence to be with families and friends and have asado is an excuse. If the people choose to live like that, fair enough. But don't start criticising other countries who do give a rat's ass and call them materialistic because they live better as a result!
Another thing - watch out, United States. A similar future is on the way as more and more people vote themselves programs as "owed to them" instead of listening to the constitution carefuly when it says the right to "pursue" happiness, not the right to HAVE happiness. The government HAS to treat ALL people equitably and fairly, but that doesn't mean that people who don't study and work hard are entitled to live as well as people who DO SO.
I worked my way through college with three freaking jobs and still didn't finish with a degree. I worked my ass off when I joined the work force and I deserve the materialistic things that my hard work paid for.
Ok, done. Sorry, sometimes I just get set off by concepts such as Argentinos living such full and satisfied lives while all US Americans are idiots only interested in materlistic greed.
Who says you can't live well and still enjoy family, friends and asado?