Met An Argentine Girl In The States, Need Some Perspective..

zshane1125

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Hello Baexpats,

I am new to this forum. I found this forum to be the most insightful source of information regarding Argentina life and culture, so I decided to make an account and get some opinion on a situation...

I met a girl from Argentina 5 months ago. She is a recent med school graduate, doing either clinical rotation / residency here in the US. She goes to my gym, and I started talking to her while the gym had a fire emergency and we were outside. She always acted "shy while smiling" whenever she passes me by, but I never started a conversation with her because I don't hit on women at the gym. Anyways, she made a comment (to herself lol when I was standing almost next to her) about how she is mad that the gym is closed when she was just getting started, and I took that opportunity to start a conversion with her. I was pleasantly surprised at her accent and the fact that she is from Argentina. I invited her to get some smoothies next door, and she agreed. We talked briefly for 15 min just to get some basic facts about each other, I flirted with her a bit, and she was all smiling and cutsie. Then I got her number, and tried to arrange a date on the spot, she told me "I don't know, I never know, but I will let you know" while acting all happy, we hugged before we parted our ways.

She keeps initiating texting with me several times, and I kept it short and sweet. Saw her at the gym a week later, she approached me and touched my shoulder, and started a conv with me. I asked her out again, she told me she is traveling to Chicago to see her long time friends, I told her ok, just hit me up when you are back, and wished her a safe trip. She texted me the next day, telling me she might see me at the gym, I told her it was my rest day and I will see her when she gets back, she laughed and said for sure!

5 days later, she texted me told me she is back and suggests we hang out before she goes back to Argentina. I said sure, and arranged the date on the spot on a Thursday since she told me she is spending time with family on Friday. Anyways, saw her at the gym the next day while she hopped on the treadmill next to me. I was excited to see her and asked how was her trip, she told me it was great except she got a bit sick, and she asked me what we are going to do on the date etc, I kept it brief and said we are just going out and have fun. She seemed aloof at the time made me doubt how the date is going to go. Next day, she sent me a surprised text saying she can make it Friday ;), and I said great see you then.

Thursday night comes, I told her I am going to pick her up from her house tomorrow at 7:30PM. She told me please don't kill her and knows that I will hate her for this, but she had to have dinner with her cousins, and can it be 8:30 or 9PM, "angel face angel face" and then gave me her address 30 min later. I told her understandable, and lets get drinks, she was very happy and agreed.

Friday comes, she texts me an hour before the date, very excitedly to let her know before I come please. I picked her from her house, and she looked absolutely stunning, and smelled like paradise. We went out, grabbed drinks, had a fantastic time, lots of touching, and laughs, she was smiling the entire date. About 3 hours later, I told her to lets get out of the bar since it was getting late, she asked me where we going, I told her my house for some wine, she laughed and told me she is not going back to my house. She then told me she is very honest, and doesn't play games, she likes me, but she is not going to go back to my house. I laughed and said ok, lets take you back home. We left the bar, she offered to pay, I declined and footed the bill. On her walk back to my car, she was extra affectionate, and asked me if she comes back, will I answer her, I told her absolutely, she then asks me "you promise" I laughed and said "don't be silly, I will answer you if you come back", When we got to our car, I pulled her towards me, and she knew exactly what was going on, and leaned forward and we made out passionately. On our back to her house, she said all kinds of sweet things like repeatedly mention how she wished she had get to know me earlier, insisting on keeping contact through facebook, that I really surprised her etc...

We got to her house, and she was visibly sad and told me she doesn't want to leave now and wish she could stay longer, told me if I ever visit Argentina, I could live with her, told me she will be back if I am patient, then proceeded to kiss me passionately again. I kept it brief and told her she should go, then I gave her a peace sign bracelet as a parting gift since she told me she was all about peace and love. She was surprised and told me now she feels bad about not going back to my house, I laughed and said don't be silly, she was shaken at this point and came back at me with more passion. She grabbed my face and started making out with me again, reached inside my shirt and rubbed my shoulder and chest, I caressed her face and touched her legs, she then reached my crotch and felt my hard on...then she asked me how far is my house, I told her 10 min..I couldn't take it anymore, and said lets go there, she hesitated and said no. At that point, my dick is taking over my logical sense, I told her would you rather spend the night alone or with me, and she continue to kiss me. Ultimately she said she can't because she doesn't know how "it is in my city" and she has never done this before and was really caught by surprised @ how great of a guy I am, and how that I was an amazing kisser etc..I was disappointed, but I had to let her go while she still insisted that she really really likes me and she will be back.

Next day comes, I told her that I had an amazing time with her and wish her a safe trip back to Argentina, she said she did too, and she will wear the bracelet all the time because it is so her, and told me it would be easier if I facebook message instead of imessage her. A week later, I fb messaged her to get a feel of her schedule, she told me she is working alot and work out alot haha, but it's been good. Hours later, she replied my last text and said she she is going to sleep because it was 2AM, and she is tired, and suggests we talk tomorrow. She did not hit me back tomorrow or the whole weekend.

5 months passed, we have not had any contact since. Her grandparents, aunts and uncles all live here in the city, and I know she visits at least once a year. Her grandpa is a medical departmental director, and her uncle and aunt are doctors, and she is on her way to become one her self, and her baby cousins are all here, so I know she will be back most likely around Chrismas / New Year.

I just want to get some perspective, especially from maybe Argentina women on this forum on how this girl might think of me at this point. She is incredibly beautiful, passionate, independent, and sweet, a 10/10 in my eyes, and I would definitely want to spend more time with her. But the fact that she said lets continue the conv tomorrow but didn't hit me up, the fact that 5 months passed and I have not heard a single word from her, the stereotype that Argentina women are hystericas, flakey and act hot and cold, I just don't know how she feels about me anymore. Also, I do not know what her long term plans are. Her parents are separated, she lives with her mom. I don't know whether or not she wants to come to the US and become a doctor here (if not, then why would she has interns at her grandpa's hospital over the years), or she will live in Argentina and practice there.

Thanks for the long read, and I really appreciate it. I would love to get some perspective on this situation and hopefully some wise and constructive advice on the next course of action (or inaction). I will be happy to answer any questions or details that I left out. I tried to keep this as short as possible.
 

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She was not going to have sex with you, especially not on a first date. She likes you. She now does not want to have a long distance relationship and webcam sex. There is a remote possibility she will text you if/when she visits her family, but remember: she gos there to visit her family, not you.
 

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An Argentina who finishes dinner before 20:30? Huge red flag - she's lying about something.

My takeaway - and I mean this in the best possible sense - don't be a moron.

BTW, this is BAExpats, not Penthouse Forum.
 

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I am a former New Yorker who is very, very happy with my Argentinian lady. She's definitely worth all the effort and risks that were involved.

But I completely agree with the above comments (except for the finishing dinner at 10:30, because she probably had dessert on her mind LOL).

You could have described the situation in about 15 non-explicit words. And you whine that you "haven't heard a word from her"!!! You "don't know how she feels"!!! WTF!! You haven't written or asked.

I wouldn't let my daughter stay in contact with you.

At this point she probably (correctly) thinks of you as some horny adolescent that couldn't be bothered to email or skype her once she was more than a few blocks from your bedroom.

Thats too bad because she sounds like someone you might have had a good life with, beautiful, smart, good chemistry with you and wise enough not to get involved with you.

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On second thought, this has to be a joke.
 

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I'm no prude but certain comments you made should have been left out. They left me with the impression that you're either a frustrated teenager or someone with a vivid imagination.

Could you elaborate on this? I really don't understand what you are saying at all. What comments exactly.

An Argentina who finishes dinner before 20:30? Huge red flag - she's lying about something.

My takeaway - and I mean this in the best possible sense - don't be a moron.

BTW, this is BAExpats, not Penthouse Forum.

Elaborate? Her family live in the states, and they are US citizens, shouldn't they be finishing up dinner around that time?

I am so confused by these comments, you guys are neither explaining to me what went wrong, or what exactly is going on?
I feel terrible now, and I don't know why these comments are so condescending. I never dated a latina before, I just wanted some opinions...
 

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5 months passed, we have not had any contact since.(...)[background=rgb(252, 252, 252)]I would love to get some perspective on this situation....[/background]

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Here is some perspective: Move on with your life. If she has not contacted you since, and you have not tried doing the same, it means that she is probably banging a guy named Marcelo, Mathias or Alejandro, that she met a local boliche in Buenos Aires, while you are writing soft-porn, advice seeking messages at an expat forum.
 

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Here is some perspective: Move on with your life. If she has not contacted you since, and you have not tried doing the same, it means that she is probably banging a guy named Marcelo, Mathias or Alejandro, that she met a local boliche in Buenos Aires, while you are writing soft-porn, advice seeking messages at an expat forum.

Again, why are you been so condescending? Did you even read the post? I did try to contact her, but she didn't get back to me, that means the ball is in her court now. If she doesn't want to contact me, that's fine, nothing is going happen when we live on different continents.

I simply wanted to keep in contact with this girl, maybe chat once a month, not to have a relationship or webcam sex, that's ridiculous. Who cares if she is banging some other dude, she is not in a relationship with me, nor do I intend to form one with her at this point, she can do w/e the hell she wants to. Like I said, I simply wanted to keep in touch.

I wanted to get some perspective on the situation since I don't know Argentina dating culture etc, and you guys are crucifying me when you didn't even read the post.
 

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Again, why are you been so condescending? Did you even read the post? I did try to contact her, but she didn't get back to me, that means the ball is in her court now. If she doesn't want to contact me, that's fine, nothing is going happen when we live on different continents.

I simply wanted to keep in contact with this girl, maybe chat once a month, not to have a relationship or webcam sex, that's ridiculous. Who cares if she is banging some other dude, she is not in a relationship with me, nor do I intend to form one with her at this point, she can do w/e the hell she wants to. Like I said, I simply wanted to keep in touch.

I wanted to get some perspective on the situation since I don't know Argentina dating culture etc, and you guys are crucifying me when you didn't even read the post.

I think everyone who has made comments has read the post.

At least two of us have also read Penthouse forum and the graphic description of your make out session is what inspired that comment.

This isn't a question of different cultures. If a woman isn't interested in keeping in touch with a man who lives on a different continent, doesn't really know, and may never see again, she won't. It's that simple. If she was interested in keeping in touch, you probably (99.99%) would have heard from her by now.

And if you are the kind of man who makes statements like "Who cares if she is banging some other dude..." in a public"forum, you might not have been all that impressive in private, even if you weren't as crude when you were alone with her.

PS: Smart and successful women look for men who are equally smart and successful. She is no longer on a a career path to become a doctor, she is a doctor and, unless you can match or surpass that, you are going to find yourself out of her league. I know this from experience. That's why I'm not married to a doctor...though I once went to a gym with one.
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But I completely agree with the above comments (except for the finishing dinner at 10:30, because she probably had dessert on her mind LOL).

Just for perspective, I said 20:30 - that's 8:30pm. When I met my wife, and wanted to pick her up at 19:30 (7:30pm) for our fist date, she said, "It's dinner, not lunch!"
 
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