I usually live in a cabin on a small lake on top of what passes for a ski mountain in an alpine microclimate on the north tip of NJ.I live in NJ today. Not in Newark though. But Newark is clearly getting nicer and likely will only improve over time. People want to live in or near NYC and need places close to public transportation. That’s how Hoboken gentrified. Used to live in Brooklyn and the same process happened there.
I’m not originally from Jersey so was a bit wary when we moved here years ago. Today I think it’s one of the best places in the US. Very nice 4 seasons, very nice outdoors close by, and the city next to you. Depending on where you live schools are great and even dining has improved (something true of much of the US)
New Jersey is a classic place for reductionist attitudes some of which are right. I’m hating the sectarianism in the US and loving BsAs as a less divisive (!!?!) place and warmer in many ways