About Nigel Owens the referee for All Blacks vs. Los Pumas
Nigel Owens
Welsh International Rugby Union referee, Nigel Owens, 39, of Pontyberem, who tried to take his own life, said:
“I came from a very old-fashioned and very Welsh home, in a rural part of Wales – a village called Mynydd Cerrig. An only child, my mum was a housewife and my dad worked in the local quarry in the valley. I started playing rugby when I was 10 and by the time I was 16 I was regularly going to watch matches with my father, around the same time as my career in refereeing began.
I didn't realise I was gay until I was 19. Overweight and depressed, I developed bulimia. I didn't want to be this way. I suppose my low self-esteem was because I wasn't happy with myself.
My feelings of depression built up and up through my early twenties until at the age of 26, I tried to take my own life. It was a spur of the moment thing. One night I woke up at about 3 am, I couldn't shake this feeling of shame and isolation. Leaving a note to my parents, I picked up a bottle of tablets and a shotgun, and walked out the house. I walked for a few hours looking for a familiar place. I went to the top of a mountain, where I used to go as a child, to see the view for the last time. After taking an overdose I fell into a coma. In the end my parents found my letter and called the police, who put up a helicopter to search for me.
I woke up in hospital, my parents were crying and all my friends were there. ‘My God, what have I done?’ were the first thoughts to cross my mind. I needed to accept who I was and once I did that I could get on with things.
Looking back there were people I could and should have turned to, but because I felt so ashamed I never tried. Men from my town would just get on with things; you weren’t even aware men had problems. You would not see a man expressing his feelings. As children we weren't even aware there were issues men faced.
Men do find it more difficult to talk about their problems; they feel they have to shoulder things. I think if I had tried to talk to someone on that night, I might not have attempted to take my own life.
That's why this campaign is so important; because it has the power to make men aware help is available and that they should use it.”
I've good feelings with this referee in this World Cup and the Pumas, he was the referee in the 2007 Rugby World Cup between Georgia vs. Argentina in his first.