It's a very large international city. It's a working city, not Disneyland (with the exception of the touristy areas). We have a very large influx of immigrants, one of the worlds best police forces and a population of almost 8.5 million. I have never been to a trailer park in Arkansas but I seriously doubt it holds one atom of culture that you can find in NYC (including the boroughs).
As for safety, it is very safe. I have not had any issues (knock on wood) in 32 years. Like any city I guess it's a matter of being "aware". I like that people are posting incidents on this board because it does make you more aware of what is going on around BsAs and the new tricks that these thugs are using.
As a side note, I am truly sorry that you do not like NYC. Maybe it is a cultural thing. (Yes, there are a lot of people who are still sad over 9-11 and others who have PTSD. Not good to talk to strangers about it in a bar. Also, no Ny'er likes flying out of JFK or Laguardia but thats mainly due to constant construction, security and the size of those airports. I hope you do go back to NY with an open mind and have a better experience. We are not all bad!!)