Why Did You Break Up With Your Partner?

[khairyexpat]

Aren't you supposed to be still getting money when you retire? Whether is social Security or IRA, etc?

We didn´t even need that (or dependent on it).

 

[Joe]

It might not have been the money, but the idea of spending a lot of time together when you have to work, that is not an issue. In the end, it is better that it was 19 years and not 30 right?

This is the main issue in Retired Husband Syndrome. Especially in Japan where the husband devotes his life to work, the couple spend very little time together - so the prospect of being together all the time is unbearable.

 

[mimyr]

She sort of had a nervous breakdown from having to (or at least feeling like she has to) take care of her very sick mother and mentally ill sister that doesn't help with the rent. Social plans as small as going out for a cup of coffee make her stressed out for days in advance.

 

[khairyexpat]

It might not have been the money, but the idea of spending a lot of time together when you have to work, that is not an issue. In the end, it is better that it was 19 years and not 30 right?

Absolutely, you are right.

Every morning here is a gift and a blessing, a freebie, an extra, a peace of mind.

Though it´s difficult to be alone.
But that is life, never complete for no one, always something will be missing, one way or the other.

 

[khairyexpat]

She sort of had a nervous breakdown from having to (or at least feeling like she has to) take care of her very sick mother and mentally ill sister that doesn't help with the rent. Social plans as small as going out for a cup of coffee make her stressed out for days in advance.

We didn´t even need that (we were not dependent on it).

 

[Joe]

She sort of had a nervous breakdown from having to (or at least feeling like she has to) take care of her very sick mother and mentally ill sister that doesn't help with the rent. Social plans as small as going out for a cup of coffee make her stressed out for days in advance.

Sounds like a case of Social Phobia:

http://youtu.be/26nr03IG488

 

[nikad]

Absolutely, you are right.

Every morning here is a gift and a blessing, a freebie, an extra, a peace of mind.

Though it´s difficult to be alone.
But that is life, never complete for no one, always something will be missing, one way or the other.

Enjoy your life and your time, most likely when you least expect it, a true love and companion will cross your road. And if it doesn't happen for whatever reason, there is always friends and a good and active social life

 

[khairyexpat]

the prospect of being together all the time is unbearable.

That would have been just fine with me, if it did not go beyond that (no problem whatsoever).

But court order ... never expected it in a million years, and in swift 2 weeks, everything was prepared and ready.
Taking me to the cleaners for every drop of my blood, needs a better description.

 

[Joe]

That would have been just fine with me, if it did not go beyond that (no problem whatsoever).

But court order ... never expected it in a million years, and in swift 2 weeks, everything was prepared and ready.
Taking me to the cleaners for every drop of my blood, needs a better description.

Did you ask her reasons for getting a divorce?

 

[khairyexpat]

Did you ask her reasons for getting a divorce?

NO.

NEVER EVER, do I want to cross her roads again. (Thank God I got myself 1000´s of miles away from her)
We argued a life time, and I never got anywhere, for 19 years tried to hold water.
Can´t be done.
What is the use?