This is a false equivalent.
As a society, we can either move toward equality, fairness, and respect for all or we can choose not to. Choose being the operative word. You choose the words you use. You can use racist words or you can make the choice not to. This is a lesson most learn in childhood. It requires minimal effort. Racism isn't just in-your-face hate, it's often mundane. This mundanity makes it easier to keep oppression intact. Referring to people negatively by the differences you perceive keeps oppression intact. Passing along that language (and the racist beliefs BUILT into that language) to your children is people's seemingly benign way of keeping the world the way it is: vastly unfair and kind of a hot garbage fire.
Language matters. Pretending that it doesn't or that it's 'political correctness' versus the way that we literally communicate is nonsense. You know this, of course. We're all adults here. If you want to use racist words, go ahead. As we're seeing now, there may be consequences for it. As societies continue their crawl toward progression, it'll be harder and harder to play dumb.
If you're going to wear the MAGA hat (even if it's in a light shade of pink), wear the MAGA hat.