Dealing with kids asking for money repeatedly after being helped

[Gringo80]

A couple of weeks ago I saw three kids eating garbage out of a dumpster in our neighborhood and couldn't resist giving them some money for a good lunch. Now they come to our door asking for money every couple of days. We've been giving them food instead but they are becoming resentful and I can imagine that they might cause us more serious problems in the future.
Has anyone solved a similar problem?

 

[steveinbsas]

Has anyone solved a similar problem?

Here's how Ricky Gervais in the Netflix series "Afterlife" dealt with two punks demanding money:

Of course I'm not suggesting you smash anyone in the head with a can of dog food, but I can say that I greatly enjoyed watching the series.

 

[SinPulgas]

Be honest, tell them that you're not rich, and you don't have money to give them all the time. Tell them that you can give them something once a month (first day, last day, something identifiable), and that's all. Or tell them you no longer have money to give them at all.

I've been stalked by people asking for money in my neighborhood, and unfortunately, the best solution I have found is to keep saying no until they give up.

 

[Gringo80]

Until recently I had a large boxer that didn't like people coming to our front door, or even parking in front of our house. He was pretty good at discouraging people from bothering us. Maybe I should borrow a large dog.

 

[Goata]

A couple of weeks ago I saw three kids eating garbage out of a dumpster in our neighborhood and couldn't resist giving them some money for a good lunch. Now they come to our door asking for money every couple of days. We've been giving them food instead but they are becoming resentful and I can imagine that they might cause us more serious problems in the future.
Has anyone solved a similar problem?

Yes, it's very tricky emotionally. We have a couple of door knockers a day and some of the same ones weekly. We had to cut off a couple of very persistent people. My wife is Argentine and her rule is she gives nothing to working age men and only food to others. Absolutely no money at all. I see her logic although I do not always adhere to it. Sometimes we park the car down the street rather than the driveway if it is a holiday.

 

[LuckyLuke]

My wife and I have had similar experiences. She is Argentine and sometimes rolls her eyes at some of my kind gestures. As a personal policy, I don't give money to anyone for free except in some occasions where I'm out at a restaurant and I'm buying some peace of mind by having the gentleman move on to another table. I usually will give a bag of fideos if they ask for food. I always buy a few extra at the store in case someone comes by the house. Sometimes I will buy some trash bags or socks if someone is selling them as a way to help. Sometimes I will donate some spare clothes or various products I didn't end up needing. There is one gentlemen that comes by monthly asking if he can do some work for me at whatever price I want to pay. I usually ask him to wash the outside of my car. He has asked in the past for an advance of money, and I politely refused knowing where that could lead.

 

[Lanick]

That’s seriously an unnecessary problem to deal with.

 

[Dim Witty]

If you can give, give. If you can now and then sacrifice a frivolous purchase for the sake of helping one of the suffering victims of this nefarious administration, considering doing so. If not, a smile and words of encouragement to communicate your sympathy and sense of shared humanity is encouraged. Donate your unneeded clothes to charity (contact me if you want for find out where). And always leave generous tips to waiters and waitresses.

 

[Lanick]

If you can give, give. If you can now and then sacrifice a frivolous purchase for the sake of helping one of the suffering victims of this nefarious administration, considering doing so. If not, a smile and words of encouragement to communicate your sympathy and sense of shared humanity is encouraged. Donate your unneeded clothes to charity (contact me if you want for find out where). And always leave generous tips to waiters and waitresses.

I’m sorry but it doesn’t work like that. Once you give they (as in the author’s post) they ask again and again and if you refuse they may get annoyed!

 

[Dim Witty]

I’m sorry but it doesn’t work like that. Once you give they (as in the author’s post) they ask again and again and if you refuse they may get annoyed!