apple - just need confirmation

[syngirl]

One other thing, I wouldn't give a crap if people had been looking for porn on my browser. What would bother me is if they were opening my email programmes or messing with my work folders and files. If there's any important data on a computer you should have passwords.

The other thing you should do is set up profiles for various users on the computer, each with a password, and then you can always set one up that has no password but also has no access to important folders.

 

[katti]

yes it does surprise me that she knows how to use it, but then again, who else can it be???? And only those 2 days we were out, on the computer in the kitchen, and the day I was in, on the laptop in my daughters room? Not on other days.
It is not so much that she watched porn, but that she uses the computer which has private things in it. I never open my daughters computer...

 

[mini]

Why don't you password protect all the computers?

 

[katti]

One other thing, I wouldn't give a crap if people had been looking for porn on my browser. What would bother me is if they were opening my email programmes or messing with my work folders and files. If there's any important data on a computer you should have passwords.

The other thing you should do is set up profiles for various users on the computer, each with a password, and then you can always set one up that has no password but also has no access to important folders.

That's it, she read my daughters mail. She was upset about that. (although it is all in english and flemish). It's just the idea that someone has been able to check everything that is annoying.
And that her other work isn't done.

 

[katti]

Why don't you password protect all the computers?

that is the 1st t hing we did when we found out, but i don't want to "put a lock" on everything. I want to trust her. Trust that she does not sneak into our private world, that she does not steal and that she does not bring "friends" to our house when we our in.

That's why I want to be sure that no one else could get into our computers from outside the house.

 

[syngirl]

Hmm I think you are still trying to figure out what you are annoyed most about!

The fact porn was searched?
The fact the computers were used?
The fact that email was opened -- though obviously not really read since it is in other languages.

At the end of the day I think you are probably out of a decent maid, because you feel your trust has been violated.

It will be hard to proceed with her because you will have suspicion

Any computer that has things on it that you don't want people touching should be password protected.

Create a profile that only gets internet access and has no password, and then everything else should have a password (you can always come to an agreement with your family members that there will be a "family password" and a "hmm maybe we'll catch the maid in the act" profile....

I have way too many docs on my pute that I can't afford to have someone accidentally delete. I have a password on mine, my husband has a pass on his, it's not about not trusting, it's more about not wanting anyone to be able to open the pute, mess around and OOPS accidentally delete that project I've been working on etc.

 

[katti]

Problem solved, talked to an apple technician. No way someone else (from outside the house ) could have worked on our computers without our knowing/permitting. (it is a quite complicated procedure, no way the maid could have given this permission when we were not in).

Someone could have hijacked the computer, like french jurist said, but then we would not know it, and it would certainly not appear in the history.

No one but the 4 of us plus the maid have the code of the alarm and the keys.

So there is no other posibility then that she did it, or that she brought someone with her to do it. In both ways she was doing wrong.

So the talk we had this morning was correct. We didn't accuse her of doing something she didn't do, which was what I wanted to be sure about.

So this item is closed, she is given a 2nd chance to prove that she is actually the person we have always trusted and that she is worth our trust. She knows she will not get a 3th chance and she realises she really does not want to loose this job.

Thanks everyone for responding!

 

[nikad]

Chances are that if she was alone, she brought a friend with her, and maybe she did that as your maid was working or something. Also think that most dating sites open up pop ups or pop unders with XXX sites. You should either password protect all your computers, or not have a maid if you do not want people touching your things ( 99% of maids will go through stuff just for the sake of it or out of boredom! ) In the end, you maid is just a 21 year old girl, she is still very young and prone to make these kind of mistakes...

 

[ghost]

Chances are that if she was alone, she brought a friend with her, and maybe she did that as your maid was working or something. Also think that most dating sites open up pop ups or pop unders with XXX sites. You should either password protect all your computers, or not have a maid if you do not want people touching your things ( 99% of maids will go through stuff just for the sake of it or out of boredom! ) In the end, you maid is just a 21 year old girl, she is still very young and prone to make these kind of mistakes...

One day into the computer and next week into the medicine cab and then the jewelry box.
We had a maid once that stole panties. Sounds funny right? Not really, it sets up some pretty strange finger pointing.

 

[LAtoBA]

One day into the computer and next week into the medicine cab and then the jewelry box.

But isn't that a bad analogy because she didn't take anything!? She didn't break into the computer as others have pointed out--it wasn't password protected. She merely turned it on or opened the lid. Sure she should not have done it but if she's good employee I think a talk and second chance is in order, as the op mentioned she has done.

There's no doubt in my mind that 9 out of 10 "young" maids would have done the same thing give the same circumstances. The temptation was too great.