The jealousy is incredibly high amongst the local girls. Then again, in a city where everyone cheats on everyone else, it's natural to be jealous I suppose -- for instance one of the couples I know were both in long term relationships when they started cheating together, and they eventually left their partners for each other -- but when you start a relationship based on cheating you'll probably always wonder if your partners going to cheat on you.
An example of "normal" behaviour by women here:
The man in the relationship above was moving. His girlfriend (of 2+ years) knows he is moving. The couple works for the same company but at different locations. Boyfriend sent out an email to all friends and co-workers in his address book saying "I'm moving, this is my new number". A couple of days later Girlfriend comes into the office and one of her co-workers says "Oh I hear Nico is moving" - Girlfriend asks how would co-worker know -- "Nico sent out an email" -- Girlfriend gets upset because she didn't get the email (hello, she's the girlfriend! she already knows all of this!). So Girlfriend asks coworker to print out the email so she can inspect it. Girlfriend sees the name of Boyfriends ex-ex-girlfriend in the list. Girlfriend then throws a total fit, refuses to see Boyfriend for 2 weeks, but spends nights screwing with Boyfriend's head by calling him, yelling at him for an hour or so, then crying and moaning that she doesn't understand why he doesn't want to come over, then when he says he'll come over gets angry and says she never wants to see him again, then when he says "Fine, whatever" and hangs up, she calls back crying, moaning, "why don't you love me" etc etc repeat 100x (I'm sure this sounds familiar to a lot of you guys!
The guy is SO patient -- he actually stuck it out through all of this and they are still together. I feel like taking the girl aside, slapping her across the face and saying "look, you've got a decent guy, stop f*&#ng it up!" -- she does this every few months.
It seems the women here playing these types of mind games the whole way through their life. Perhaps the entire country thrives on the make-up sex??
Are you the expert on what is 'normal' here? What are your qualifications? One couple you know did this or that is hardly sufficient. But you are entitled to your opinion no matter how shallow that makes you appear.I've been in a relationship with an Argentine woman for over 18 months and have no doubts about her fidelity. Most of our friends and extended family members are also in stable relationships.
Cheating is not exclusive to people in Argentina. North Americans are notorious for cheating and divorce. And you should hear what middle eastern men think of North American women... Easy marks, substantiated or not!Point is, people are not possessions. We don't own each other and if the luster wears thin in a relationship, it is natural to look outside the relationship for that which is missing. Divorce is not a bad word. If you think so, then I say Marriage is even worse because that basically means you are branded and submit to be possessed by another for life. I am in a relationship because I want to be... not because I have to be. Let's name some vices... Alcohol, book clubs, support groups, counseling sessions, or even sex outside the relationship. In Spain there are bordellos set up in just about every town which caters to both single and married men. Another vice.
If married couple can maintain their relationship through various devices such as independent social groups, clubs, etc... what is wrong with that? So why would an occasional affair (a vice) be considered negative if it doesn't distract from the other aspects of the relationship.There are many different lifestyles couples engage including open relationships and swingers. Who are we to judge? And don't quote verses from the Bible because for many people the scriptures are simply another philosophy for living. If it is yours, so be it, I will not judge or criticize you for it.In closing, I would like to offer that there is nothing unique when it comes to people from one country or another. In todays globetrotting world, there is no 'normal' either. We are influenced by the people and media around us. CNN, MTV, etc...
At the core, we are all the same. How easily influenced we are by political propaganda and the brainwashing (or programming if you prefer) of various institutions in their attempt to establish society norms is the difference."The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being
overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and
sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege
of owning yourself." - Friedrich Nietzsche