You are clearly very emotional at this point. For example you keep offering to show emails and chats to prove you're right and the other person is wrong.
The accusations about my being very emotional are made from whole cloth - I just got back from a fantastic BAExpat meetup, in fact, and am in fantastic spirits! I will be ignoring these comments (I only respond because it's the second time you say it and I'd hate for you to think I hadn't seen them), though I appreciate that you may have made the rest of your comments with the best of intentions.
Thanks for your 'help', but I think I know what to do from this point on. I just really hope that she doesn't start destroying my walls, as she is now accusing me of having hidden cameras in the apartment that she will have to destroy the walls to get to. Not naming names, but a couple of other expats saw this email when it arrived. The people who matter have seen, in person, how I've been reacting to these things as they happen.
I think it's natural to offer to provide proof, when - as TomAtAlki mentions above - there have been some 'incidents' on this forum in the past. I've responded to them privately and am, once again, satisfied that the people who matter know what's what. I also hope that I've been able to prevent this happening to someone else.
I'll probably be deleting this thread (if possible) once this is resolved, but I am extremely thankful for and pleasantly surprised by all of the support I've received here, especially in the flurry of PMs I received, which I will reply to now that I am back home! I look forward to becoming more involved in future BAExpat meetups and events IRL.
Thanks, guys - as long as my apartment isn't totally destroyed on Monday, I will feel that I've actually had a net gain from this whole experience with the BAExpats forum. I found support that I had been unaware of until today and met some great and inspirational people to boot.